Believe in yourself, listen to your gut, and do what you love. – Dylan Lauren
Lately, I have been having so many conversations with people about following passion and pursuing purpose. The growing consensus is that folks are completely tired of tirelessly working for other people, making their respective companies more and more money, and seemingly getting the “short end of the stick” in the process. These folks that I have been talking to are yearning to have way more control over their destiny and want the flexibility and freedom to spend better use of their daily time. There are dreams, passions, and visions that are repeatedly being placed on hold and on the back burner, and these folks are telling me that they are wholeheartedly ready for their circumstances to change.
“Follow your dreams, believe in yourself and don’t give up.”
– Rachel Corrie
This conversation is all too real to me, mainly because it is one that I also had to have with myself. I, too, got really tired of punching a clock for someone else. I have no regrets and I am genuinely grateful for all of the professional experiences I have had thus far. I have learned so many invaluable things from each and every one of them and they have collectively played an extremely significant role in shaping my perspective of business. However, I have always known that a ‘9-5’ was not the destiny written for me. There was just something about having to be on someone else’s clock that made me feel so forcibly confined and restricted. I enjoyed almost all of the working conditions, professional atmosphere, and especially my colleagues and cohorts, but there was always still something that was not fulfilling about the “job”.
“Believe in yourself, and the rest will fall into place.
Have faith in your own abilities, work hard, and there is nothing you cannot accomplish.”
– Brad Henry
I definitely know that I am not the only one that feels this way, and as I stated before I have had this very conversation with multiple people. We all have to start doing a better and more dedicated job of planning for our futures so that we can realistically progress toward the point of manifesting more desires for ourselves and for our true purposes in life. If we don’t begin to take the bull by the horns and hold tight to the reins of our destiny, we are going to be stuck in a continuous cycle of building someone else’s dream. We work tirelessly, day after day, but for what? We are working for a paycheck that we have come way too dependent upon. It is literally the exchange of our freedom. It is not life. Design your life. No, really. Have you ever taken the time to really think about what you want it to look like? Start by taking small, but calculated steps to transform your life into exactly what you envision. Here are a few tips to get your wheels rolling.
- Get extremely clear on your purpose and make a commitment to your dream.
“If you believe in yourself and have dedication and pride – and never quit, you’ll be a winner. The price of victory is high but so are the rewards.” – Paul Bryant
Okay, let’s be clear about one thing. I know that we have all heard this expression popularized by Tony A. Gaskins, Jr.: “If you don’t build your dream, someone will hire you to help build theirs.” There is so much truth and validity to this perspective. Many of us wake up to an alarm clock every morning with a preset destination: work. (le sigh) On some days, we arrive early to this destination, oftentimes we stay late at this destination, and more often than not we feel undervalued, overworked, and unappreciated by the demands of this destination. So what happens next? Do we leave? Nope. We stay – for weeks, months, years, and sometimes even decades. The greater majority of the time we are not entirely happy; there is almost always something substantial missing or something more that we daydream about doing and would much rather be doing.
- Create a vision of the life you would love to live.
“From my own experience, I want to say that you should follow your heart, and the mind will follow you. Believe in yourself, and you will create miracles.” – Kailash Satyarthi
“When you are alone in your room and you are staring at the wall, do you hear your conscience call?” (Smile.) No, but seriously. Take moments of time throughout your day to daydream, envision, and visualize your future. Do this vividly – alive and in living color. Be very detailed and be very specific about every, single thing that you want to see manifested in your life, in every area of your life. The clearer it is to you, the more real and tangible it will be for you. You will be inevitably forced to commit and dedicate yourself to your purpose and attack it with an unwavering ferocity.
- Immerse yourself in learning.
“You can have all the tools in the world but if you don’t genuinely believe in yourself, it’s useless.” – Ken Jeong
‘School is never out for the pro.’ That saying will never get old and it will never lose its truth. The world around us is constantly changing and shifting. That means you have to be in sync and abreast of all of the changes, at all times. The only way to do that is to make sure that you stay connected, especially to the relevant areas of your industry and interests, as well as to the ever-changing advancements and developments of technology. Sign up to take a new course. Heck, with experience, knowledge, and results you can even create your own course one day. Impart the knowledge that you have unto others. Exchange ideas and continue to open yourself to the possibilities of endless self-growth.
- Stay focused, set daily goals, and work hard!
“Believe in yourself, take on your challenges, and dig deep within yourself to conquer fears. Never let anyone bring you down. You got to keep going.” – Chantal Sutherland
Trust the process. And, trust me when I say that it is definitely a process. Nothing will transpire overnight. Just like anything else that is worth having, not only is it worth waiting for, but it also takes time. Some days it will feel like you have lost everything. Other days, it will feel like you have completely pressed the reset button, or are working against the current. Breathe easy. That is totally okay. You are not alone because everyone goes through moments like that. Keep pressing on and pressing forward. Take each day just as it comes – one at a time. Keep your nose to the ground and one day you will look up to see that everything you have ever dreamed about and have ever envisioned has finally come to its abundant fruition. It will be your well-deserved moment of arrival. Always believe in yourself. Everyone thinks “the work” is the hard part, but it is not. It is the continuous belief that you have in you, especially when things aren’t lining up the way you expected or imagined. That, my friends, is the true test.